Can a Hook up turn into Love?
Relationships blossom in different ways and there is no known formula that will get you into a relationship. You are more likely to meet your romantic partner randomly than in a bar or a hotel or a ball (Cinderella everyone?). Some people spend years being sworn enemies then without any warning, they end up falling in love and get married. Others meet their soul mates in high school, University, Swinger clubs, public bathrooms; it just too random to predict. In an age where hook up sites are becoming popular every day, you may wonder just how often “hook up dates” turn into something more than a “casual” thing.
A hook up is supposed to be a casual thing that ends after a few minutes or hours. There are no romantic dates, flowers or diamond rings in this kind of arrangement, just pure desire to satisfy your sexual needs. Despite this, it is realistic to believe that a genuine romantic relationship can sprout from a hook up. You need to know that there is no such thing as a “soul mate”; you will end up with the person who reminds you of your father or mother and partially resembles you. Studies even show that pheromones do influence whether two people become attracted to each other or not. Let us look at some hook up situations that can lead to romantic love:
Not all sexual experiences lead to a feeling that you are connected to you temporary lover. But there are times that the action in bed is just too good and the chemistry between you and your hook up is too strong to ignore. Feeling connected to someone sexually and finding someone you have good chemistry with in bed is very rare. If it happens, then there is a chance that the person may ask to see you again and that is how you will end up dating for real.
Your “date” and you stumble into his/her house held tightly together in a passionate embrace. Then you notice he has a collection of all the things you find precious. It could be old diskettes, stumps or even magazines. The next thing you know is that you are walking around the house talking about his/her collection and forgetting about what the two of you wanted to do just a few minutes before. You may just end up dating because you have a hobby in common.
Meet by Accident
Sometimes you are strict with what you do on hook ups and take precautions to only meet the person in a motel not your house. That means that you won’t fall in love because of a hobby you like or because of the PC games on your computer. Your intention is just to have sex then get into your car and go home. You may take all these precautions against love but what happens when you meet the guy/girl by accident? What if she is the new department head or the police officer who arrests your brother? You will be forcedd to engage with them, which may lead into another casual encounter and then love.
Love is a strange thing and it reveals itself in unexpected ways. Shakespeare knew this and that is why he wrote Romeo and Juliet. He knew that two people from rival gangs or families can fall in love even if it puts them at risk of getting killed or being disowned. So, yes, your one night stand may turn into love and then marriage.